A One Off Summer Linky #mainylovessummer

Here we are again with one of my special blog post linky parties! #mainylovessummer Thank you so much for joining me. How is your summer going so far? Hectic with plenty going on I suspect.

I loved holding the previous one off specials for Christmas and Easter so much that I couldn’t let summer go by without having a blog get together.

As usual there is no badge that you have to paste anywhere. What I do ask though is that where you have saved time (and space:) by not having that little task, is that you definitely do follow the guidance below.

The linky is open from 7am on Friday 11th August and closes at 7am Wednesday 16th. You then have until the Friday to complete your comments.

It’s all about sharing, reading and enjoying each others writing. Feel free to add up to 3 of any type of blogging post old or new.

Reviews, giveaways, recipes, parenting, lifestyle, poetry all manner of posts are welcome here.

Just let common sense prevail and refrain from anything outrageously offensive:)

My favourite forum is twitter so please also tweet as many posts as possible using the hash tag #mainylovessummer @myrealfairy and I will tweet away for days and days both your posts and all those you tweet from the link up.

Let’s make this a real summer sizzler and get everyone reading and talking about your posts.

Suggested guidance for participating:
  • I’d love it if you commented on the host post and at least one more for every post you link up.
  • Tweet using the hashtag #mainylovessummer @myrealfairy when you link up and you’re away!
  • Tweet, pin, stumble and share using all the wonderful ways you wish and let the blogger know when you comment how you have shared their post.
  • Use the hashtag #mainylovessummer when you comment please.
  • Enjoy and read something you wouldn’t normally click on.
  • Have fun!

 

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Nominate Me! Now that’s a call to action!

OK what I actually meant was could you Please nominate me, I didn’t want to come across as pushy:)

The Brilliance in Blogging Awards – BiB’s are open for nominations – Yippie! This year I have decided to take a deep breath and go for it! I am being brave and asking you to nominate me please if you like my blog and the type of things I cover. I love this crazy world of blogging and it would mean so much to receive some feedback in the way of nominations. So here is my unashamed post asking you to nominate.

 

All of the links here will take you to the page you can nominate from and there are details at the end of the post that you will need to nominate me. It’s real easy and takes about 2 minutes

BritMums highlights the best of parent lifestyle blogging in our Brilliance in Blogging Awards – the BiBs. It recognises the most creative, inventive and compelling blogging of the year!

If you love my blog I would be so so happy if you would nominate me for the………

Fresh Voice

which is an award celebrates the newbies in the blogging world. The blogger’s actual age doesn’t figure; rather it’s their fresh approach to blogging and social media – with content, pictures, video and voice that makes the rest of us take notice. Blog should be less than 18 months old, or recently relaunched.

or

Family & Lifestyle

These blogs might share the laughter and tears of bringing up kids, inspire us to live better, or expose the (ahem) challenges of being a parent. They are frank, often beautiful to look at it, and celebrate family life and the parenting lifestyle.

Nominations close on the 7th June so if you fancy nominating then pop over before then:)

Details you will need are…….

Blog Name: myrealfairy.com

Blog URL: http://www.myrealfairy.com

Email: fairyqueen@myrealfairy.com

Twitter: @myrealfairy

You can choose your favourite post from the blog, some of mine are:

Is social media and technology affecting your family?
Lets kick ‘passive aggressive’ into touch….
How we got involved with the Great British Spring Clean #GBSpringclean

 

Thank you so much if you do nominate me or if you vote for other bloggers as it’s so great to be part of these awards.

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Lets kick ‘passive aggressive’ into touch….

 

The Passive Aggressive story ….. There’s someone I vaguely know who has been getting me really frustrated recently with, well just the way she is! She comes across as ok, a bit wet if I’m honest but ok. The thing is she just doesn’t perform very well. . She will arrive late, not really pull her weight and giggles alot. It drives me mad! I get so frustrated with her and I spend ages trying to figure out just what it is that makes her tick. When I try and get something a bit more firm out of her she gives airy fairy answers  just floats away and continues to under-perform. I’m often left fuming and feeling deflated.

I’ve been searching for an explanation and looking at the different management techniques I should employ with her when I started reading more on human behaviours. There are some great studies out there and I’ve realised that she is demonstrating some classic ‘passive aggressive’ behaviour traits.

Passive aggressive behaviour is a deliberate but covert way of expressing anger. It is designed to exert some form of revenge or point scoring on someone for perceived wrongdoing. In some cases people can get pleasure from this aswell as getting the initial anger out of them.

Passive aggressiveness can display itself in various ways, some of these are;

Being consistently late for appointments or meet ups.

Not doing well at something in order for their failures to reflect negatively not on them but on their ‘friends’ or supervisors.

Appearing to be accommodating to your requests but not actually doing anything that you ask of them. Nodding in all the right places but not making any push to do a thing.

The thing is about these types of behaviours is that the person will generally deny any knowledge of wrongdoing and be mock offended by any kind of finger pointing in their direction. If you’re not careful you can come off looking pretty bad in any direct confrontation so be careful!

 

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I’ve often wondered what this really means and I was having a discussion recently where I realised that this form of bullying or control mechanism over others is more widely used than you might think.

 

It could be that we feel a negative thought and instead of coming right out and saying it in a constructive or direct way, we instead say something which will subtly get our point across without leading to conflict…or at least we hope. The thing is, this type of behaviour can leave the person we are directing it to hurt and without a course of action. It can be useful to the giver but to the person receiving it it can bring them down which it is designed to do, usually with more questions in their mind than a direct comment.

Whether in the workplace, social situations or in the home, I think there are many instances that go by that we pass off as ‘normal’ when we are subjected to comments or actions designed to belittle us. We must try to be aware of our own actions and stay true to our values. Being frustrated at another persons personality will not be sufficient to change it.

Have you come across any of these traits or instances? How did it make you feel and did you manage to sort anything out?

 

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